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Episode 26 Show Notes:
How transitioning my daughter to a big girl bed has shown me how unkind I am to myself. My personal lesson this week I share with you.
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EPISODE 26 - Be Kind to Yourself
Thu, 3/4 11:12PM • 7:54
SPEAKERS
Angelica, Taisha Cameron
Taisha Cameron 00:02
Angelica, can you say hello?
Angelica 00:03
Hello!
Taisha Cameron 00:06
How are you today?
Angelica 00:08
I doing, well...how are you?
Taisha Cameron 00:15
Well, I'm doing well, also. Welcome to MFA, the Parenting Edition. I'm Taisha Cameron. These lessons from the theatre for raising ourselves and our kids came about when I realized my MFA in acting trained me for life as a mommy better than life as a full time actor. Today, we will be talking about being kind to yourself. That's it, being kind. It's not going to be the episode about gender that I said that it was going to be last week things change and you'll find out why. So without further ado, this is MFA
Episode 26. Be kind to yourself.
Be kind to yourself because major transitions in your child's life make it tough to show up for other things in your life 100%. Angelica has a big girl bed now. On Sunday, we converted her crib to a day bed and she is now in her own big girl bed. So, that means nobody's sleeping. Well, Daddy's getting more sleep than the rest of us. But that's for a different episode. She's been having difficulty at the beginning of the night, staying in her bed, you know, getting out of her bed 900 times. She's been having difficulty staying in her bed throughout the night. So, getting up a few times in the middle of the night. She's been having difficulty staying in bed until a reasonable hour. So, 515 530 that's the time she wants to get up. Our family had been in a routine for a while everybody was sleeping. For the most part, there was occasional, you know, she gets up in the middle of the night. But overall, we had been on a stretch now where everyone was getting a good night's sleep. We are not there right now. And with that, what I had intended to have ready for this episode this week did not happen. One thing I've been really coming face to face with this week is how unkind I am to myself. So...
Be kind to yourself when you can't hit the goals and deadlines that you wanted. The episode I wanted to have ready is not the episode that I'm recording right now. But I feel is the one that needs to be said, I am letting myself get caught in an emotional spiral of guilt for not handling my life like a machine. I am not a machine. I am a human being. But the way I treat myself, the way I choose to speak to myself and beat myself up about not accomplishing certain things not being a certain type of person not being able to handle things in a way, comparing myself to how I think other people are handling their lives is basically treating myself as less than human. I don't always reach my goals. I don't always reach my targets, but I'm working on it. And that work starts with me being kinder to myself. And the more I can accept the fact that I am not like that and work to change it the better I can model that for Angelica because I don't want her to carry this. I want her to choose better. I want her to treat herself better than I treat myself. And she's only going to be able to do that if I start showing her that it's possible. That just made me think of Jingle Jangle. The square root of possible, does anyone, did anybody else see that this Christmas? I loved it. I thought it was so fun. Anyway, where were we?
Be kind to yourself if you're starting to lose joy in the things you love. So, I originally thought, okay, it's Thursday, I'm gonna end up just staying up until this episode gets done. And staying up to pull some sort of like college all nighter to get the episode I originally intended was not going to be kind to my body, my mind and my spirit I needed to let that go. Luckily, I have a very wonderful partner in my life who this morning basically reminded me I can give myself permission to do that. This is my podcast I answer to nobody else. You're my listeners and I love you and I adore you and I want to keep consistent with giving you the things that you love every Friday but when it comes to like a boss I have to answer to, there is no one. I am the boss. And if I can get the work done that I need to, to the standard that I want, then I have to just accept the fact that it's either not going to happen at all, or I'm going to need to create a new date when it will be available. And I don't have to sacrifice my sleep and my time and my body and soul for this work that I want to do. And I get it, you know, that's such a one, I feel like it's such a, an American thing to do. I don't know about other cultures, but it's, you know, like, very much like, Oh, you got to work and you got to work hard, and you got to, you know, show up and your work ethic and all this other stuff. And, and I think also as an artist, it's like, oh, you know, put the blood sweat and tears into the art and No, you don't. Sometimes you need to put the peace and the love and cuddles and comfort and relaxation and recharging into the work to get to the meat of it that's going to be of benefit to other people. If you're self sacrificing, that's not of benefit to anybody. I'm not here to turn myself into some sort of like artistic or parental martyr. That's not why I was put here on this earth. And if for some reason I was, then you know what, God, we're gonna have an issue about that I'm not I do not accept that.
Being kind to myself this week means I will get sleep tonight instead of staying up all night. It means acknowledging, I love my daughter and have wanted to be fully present for this week. And so I didn't get the work done for the show that I wanted and that's okay. It allowed me space to reflect and "look around, look around and how lucky we are to be alive right now," and create this episode, this one that needed to be said, even if I didn't originally know it. I'm honored to have you here with me now. Embracing being kind to yourself. It's a gift. So lovelies, next week, we'll talk gender. But for today, let's raise a glass to honoring our life by doing what brings us joy brings us peace, and helps us be kinder humans. That's not weakness - that's a motherfucking superpower. The world needs your light and love so go forth and kicketh some ass. Thank you and I'll see you on the other side. Angelica, can you say goodbye?
Angelica 07:41
Goodbye. Goodbye by.
Taisha Cameron 07:44
Thank you.
Angelica 07:45
Thank you
How transitioning my daughter to a big girl bed has shown me how unkind I am to myself. My personal lesson this week I share with you.
Ways to support the show:
Rate & Review - https://ratethispodcast.com/mfaparentingedition
Instagram - @mfaparentingedition
Buy Me a Coffee - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/mfaparenting
Full Transcript:
EPISODE 26 - Be Kind to Yourself
Thu, 3/4 11:12PM • 7:54
SPEAKERS
Angelica, Taisha Cameron
Taisha Cameron 00:02
Angelica, can you say hello?
Angelica 00:03
Hello!
Taisha Cameron 00:06
How are you today?
Angelica 00:08
I doing, well...how are you?
Taisha Cameron 00:15
Well, I'm doing well, also. Welcome to MFA, the Parenting Edition. I'm Taisha Cameron. These lessons from the theatre for raising ourselves and our kids came about when I realized my MFA in acting trained me for life as a mommy better than life as a full time actor. Today, we will be talking about being kind to yourself. That's it, being kind. It's not going to be the episode about gender that I said that it was going to be last week things change and you'll find out why. So without further ado, this is MFA
Episode 26. Be kind to yourself.
Be kind to yourself because major transitions in your child's life make it tough to show up for other things in your life 100%. Angelica has a big girl bed now. On Sunday, we converted her crib to a day bed and she is now in her own big girl bed. So, that means nobody's sleeping. Well, Daddy's getting more sleep than the rest of us. But that's for a different episode. She's been having difficulty at the beginning of the night, staying in her bed, you know, getting out of her bed 900 times. She's been having difficulty staying in her bed throughout the night. So, getting up a few times in the middle of the night. She's been having difficulty staying in bed until a reasonable hour. So, 515 530 that's the time she wants to get up. Our family had been in a routine for a while everybody was sleeping. For the most part, there was occasional, you know, she gets up in the middle of the night. But overall, we had been on a stretch now where everyone was getting a good night's sleep. We are not there right now. And with that, what I had intended to have ready for this episode this week did not happen. One thing I've been really coming face to face with this week is how unkind I am to myself. So...
Be kind to yourself when you can't hit the goals and deadlines that you wanted. The episode I wanted to have ready is not the episode that I'm recording right now. But I feel is the one that needs to be said, I am letting myself get caught in an emotional spiral of guilt for not handling my life like a machine. I am not a machine. I am a human being. But the way I treat myself, the way I choose to speak to myself and beat myself up about not accomplishing certain things not being a certain type of person not being able to handle things in a way, comparing myself to how I think other people are handling their lives is basically treating myself as less than human. I don't always reach my goals. I don't always reach my targets, but I'm working on it. And that work starts with me being kinder to myself. And the more I can accept the fact that I am not like that and work to change it the better I can model that for Angelica because I don't want her to carry this. I want her to choose better. I want her to treat herself better than I treat myself. And she's only going to be able to do that if I start showing her that it's possible. That just made me think of Jingle Jangle. The square root of possible, does anyone, did anybody else see that this Christmas? I loved it. I thought it was so fun. Anyway, where were we?
Be kind to yourself if you're starting to lose joy in the things you love. So, I originally thought, okay, it's Thursday, I'm gonna end up just staying up until this episode gets done. And staying up to pull some sort of like college all nighter to get the episode I originally intended was not going to be kind to my body, my mind and my spirit I needed to let that go. Luckily, I have a very wonderful partner in my life who this morning basically reminded me I can give myself permission to do that. This is my podcast I answer to nobody else. You're my listeners and I love you and I adore you and I want to keep consistent with giving you the things that you love every Friday but when it comes to like a boss I have to answer to, there is no one. I am the boss. And if I can get the work done that I need to, to the standard that I want, then I have to just accept the fact that it's either not going to happen at all, or I'm going to need to create a new date when it will be available. And I don't have to sacrifice my sleep and my time and my body and soul for this work that I want to do. And I get it, you know, that's such a one, I feel like it's such a, an American thing to do. I don't know about other cultures, but it's, you know, like, very much like, Oh, you got to work and you got to work hard, and you got to, you know, show up and your work ethic and all this other stuff. And, and I think also as an artist, it's like, oh, you know, put the blood sweat and tears into the art and No, you don't. Sometimes you need to put the peace and the love and cuddles and comfort and relaxation and recharging into the work to get to the meat of it that's going to be of benefit to other people. If you're self sacrificing, that's not of benefit to anybody. I'm not here to turn myself into some sort of like artistic or parental martyr. That's not why I was put here on this earth. And if for some reason I was, then you know what, God, we're gonna have an issue about that I'm not I do not accept that.
Being kind to myself this week means I will get sleep tonight instead of staying up all night. It means acknowledging, I love my daughter and have wanted to be fully present for this week. And so I didn't get the work done for the show that I wanted and that's okay. It allowed me space to reflect and "look around, look around and how lucky we are to be alive right now," and create this episode, this one that needed to be said, even if I didn't originally know it. I'm honored to have you here with me now. Embracing being kind to yourself. It's a gift. So lovelies, next week, we'll talk gender. But for today, let's raise a glass to honoring our life by doing what brings us joy brings us peace, and helps us be kinder humans. That's not weakness - that's a motherfucking superpower. The world needs your light and love so go forth and kicketh some ass. Thank you and I'll see you on the other side. Angelica, can you say goodbye?
Angelica 07:41
Goodbye. Goodbye by.
Taisha Cameron 07:44
Thank you.
Angelica 07:45
Thank you